One of the 'prerequisites' of getting married at PJEFC is completing a 10-session pre-marriage counseling course. Together with our counselors -- Drs. Hera and YF, Irwin and I officially kick-started our first session tonight! :)
The format of these sessions requires us to do a little bit of homework before we meet each session. It would include some Scripture reading as well as answering manyyyyyy questions -- questions that have NEVER crossed my mind previously :P These questions are called inventories and I guess its primary objective is to stir up both our thoughts and help us manage our expectations a li'l bit better upon entering the next phase of life... and boy, are there ALOT of expectations to cover and discuss! :D
About 2 years ago, the church also made us do a compatibility test which had us answering about 180 questions like "Do you agree that romance will fade after many years of marriage?" or "Do you foresee any major disagreements with your spouse after marriage?". Our results have both been tabulated, and we're also using it as a general guide for discussion.
Conclusion of our first session: Irwin and I are too idealistic (rather than realistic) about marriage! keke! The test showed that we strongly believe that we will be madly in love with each other forever! :D And while it is a GOOD thing, we were also made to realize that at some point, there will be rough patches, and issues that will challenge our love for each other are bound to surface. The most important ingredient for a successful marriage is to place God at the center of our lives & marriage, and also to stand by our commitment as well as the vows we will make to each other when we get married! :)
The format of these sessions requires us to do a little bit of homework before we meet each session. It would include some Scripture reading as well as answering manyyyyyy questions -- questions that have NEVER crossed my mind previously :P These questions are called inventories and I guess its primary objective is to stir up both our thoughts and help us manage our expectations a li'l bit better upon entering the next phase of life... and boy, are there ALOT of expectations to cover and discuss! :D
About 2 years ago, the church also made us do a compatibility test which had us answering about 180 questions like "Do you agree that romance will fade after many years of marriage?" or "Do you foresee any major disagreements with your spouse after marriage?". Our results have both been tabulated, and we're also using it as a general guide for discussion.
Conclusion of our first session: Irwin and I are too idealistic (rather than realistic) about marriage! keke! The test showed that we strongly believe that we will be madly in love with each other forever! :D And while it is a GOOD thing, we were also made to realize that at some point, there will be rough patches, and issues that will challenge our love for each other are bound to surface. The most important ingredient for a successful marriage is to place God at the center of our lives & marriage, and also to stand by our commitment as well as the vows we will make to each other when we get married! :)
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